{"id":2235,"date":"2009-03-08T22:16:22","date_gmt":"2009-03-09T03:16:22","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.ocbenji.com\/blog\/?p=2235"},"modified":"2010-01-12T13:09:30","modified_gmt":"2010-01-12T19:09:30","slug":"giving-in-to-yourself","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.ocbenji.com\/blog\/2009\/03\/08\/giving-in-to-yourself\/","title":{"rendered":"Giving in to Yourself"},"content":{"rendered":"<p style=\"text-align: center;\">\n<p>Did you know that whether your aware of it or not, that there is something within you thats been clawing at you to get out.\u00a0 A lion in the bushes waiting to pounce, a shark who tastes blood in the water and is ready to bite, an eagle about to snatch a fish out of the water.\u00a0 This feeling is that something is special about you that wants and deserves to shine out unto the world.<\/p>\n<p>Chances are you&#8217;ve felt this feeling ever since you were little but just didn&#8217;t have a way to explain it.\u00a0 Or you knew exactly what it was but downplayed it because of a lack of confidence that you weren&#8217;t special in any kind of way.\u00a0 That is the way I felt about the gifts I were given, that i wasn&#8217;t special in any way.\u00a0 That while it was my little secret, I wouldn&#8217;t utilize my skills because they probably weren&#8217;t special anyway.\u00a0 Only recently since trying to dig deeper into myself to find out what is there did I take notice that this strong sense of ambition and desire to be amazing was still there.<\/p>\n<p>In my case it was fear and a strong desire to fit in that caged up the lion in me. With success comes a certain alienation that people around you feel.\u00a0 A perception that you think that your better than everyone else.\u00a0 The lion trapped in me wouldn&#8217;t die and every little once in a while, a roar would come out of me and I would wonder where the hell it had come from.\u00a0 After noticing it enough I gave into it here and there to see what it was all about but never taking it seriously.\u00a0 Being a father now, I see that same little lion cub growing in my son and am fearful that if I keep my lion caged up within me that I would be teaching him that he should keep his locked in himself.\u00a0 Teaching him that its normal not to live up to your potential.<\/p>\n<p>I believe that everybody, and I do mean everybody is amazing if they just give themselves the chance to be.\u00a0 If they would just listen to that little voice in themselves that tells them that they deserve better than what they&#8217;ve been getting.\u00a0 That they&#8217;re playing small doesn&#8217;t help the world in any way.\u00a0 I believe that they would be happier if they unleash that wonderful beast of ambition and creative skill that we all have caged up within ourselves.<\/p>\n<p>With me, I feared what people would think of me if I acted how I was meant to, if I stopped pretending and started being true to my soul.\u00a0 I figure that I would rather people love me for who I really am, and not who I pretend to be to make them comfortable.\u00a0 I think Marianne Williamson said it best:<\/p>\n<blockquote><p><strong><span style=\"color: #993300;\"><em>\u201cOur deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness, that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, who am I to be <a class=\"st_tag internal_tag\" title=\"Posts tagged with Brilliant\" rel=\"tag\" href=\"..\/tag\/brilliant\/\">brilliant<\/a>, gorgeous, talented and fabulous?<\/em><\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n<p><strong><span style=\"color: #993300;\"><em>Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of <a class=\"st_tag internal_tag\" title=\"Posts tagged with God\" rel=\"tag\" href=\"..\/tag\/god\/\">God<\/a>. Your playing small doesn\u2019t serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won\u2019t feel insecure around you. We are born to make manifest the glory of <a class=\"st_tag internal_tag\" title=\"Posts tagged with God\" rel=\"tag\" href=\"..\/tag\/god\/\">God<\/a> that is within us. It is not just in some of us; it is in everyone.<\/em><\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n<p><strong><span style=\"color: #993300;\"><em>And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our fears, our presence automatically liberates others.\u201d<\/em><\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n<p><strong><span style=\"color: #993300;\"><em>-Marianne <a class=\"st_tag internal_tag\" title=\"Posts tagged with Williamson\" rel=\"tag\" href=\"..\/tag\/williamson\/\">Williamson<\/a><\/em><\/span><\/strong><\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p>I can just hear the questions being asked now, &#8220;I can feel the beast but how do I unlock the cage?&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>First I would suggest letting your guard down and going back to zero.\u00a0 Back to when you knew nothing.\u00a0 It can be very difficult especially with all of the conforming that we&#8217;ve done in our lives.\u00a0 You&#8217;ve got to strip things down to their bare butt-naked truth.\u00a0 Try the &#8220;<a href=\"http:\/\/www.ocbenji.com\/blog\/2008\/04\/01\/why-ask-why\/\">Why Game<\/a>&#8221; that my son Aden taught me.\u00a0 It consists of asking yourself why over and over again until you have an answer that you can&#8217;t ask why about anymore.\u00a0 The hardest part of this whole process will be being truthful with yourself and not lazily copping out.\u00a0 After your all zeroed out, you can just act without thinking.\u00a0 A better way to say this is to feel instead of thinking.\u00a0 Your feelings are more more\u00a0 connected with the beast than your conscious thinking mind ever could be.\u00a0 Your gonna have to trust yourself, which it in itself is a huge task for a lot of people.<\/p>\n<p>Your feelings are gonna be your compass, if something feels good, then your probably on the right path, if not, you need to stop and reevaluate where your headed.\u00a0 Be prepared to be scared on this path of self-discovery.\u00a0 You might find some things out about yourself that you wish you never knew.\u00a0 Lord knows I did!\u00a0 But overall it will be worth it.\u00a0 The truth will set you free!<\/p>\n<p>On this journey, be prepared to face disappointment and struggle but remember that anything worth anything was never easy.\u00a0 And so it will be with this, just remember to keep at it.\u00a0 And to trust yourself!<\/p>\n<p>While I can&#8217;t come close to being an expert on releasing your inner beast, I sincerely hope that my words have helped you at least start thinking about finding the key to unlock that cage.<\/p>\n<blockquote>\n<blockquote>\n<blockquote>\n<blockquote>\n<blockquote>\n<blockquote>\n<blockquote><\/blockquote>\n<blockquote><p><strong><span style=\"color: #993300;\"><em><br \/>\n<\/em><\/span><\/strong><\/p><\/blockquote>\n<\/blockquote>\n<\/blockquote>\n<\/blockquote>\n<\/blockquote>\n<\/blockquote>\n<\/blockquote>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Did you know that whether your aware of it or not, that there is something within you thats been clawing at you to get out.\u00a0 A lion in the bushes waiting to pounce, a shark who tastes blood in the water and is ready to bite, an eagle about to snatch a fish out of [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[338,335],"tags":[6,365,266,366,124,367],"class_list":["post-2235","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-book-of-benji","category-random-thoughts","tag-aden","tag-ambition","tag-god","tag-lack-of-confidence","tag-marianne-williamson","tag-strong-desire"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.ocbenji.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2235","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.ocbenji.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.ocbenji.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.ocbenji.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.ocbenji.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=2235"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/www.ocbenji.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2235\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.ocbenji.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=2235"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.ocbenji.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=2235"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.ocbenji.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=2235"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}