What is the nice guy and where did he come from?  Was he born or shaped?  Natural or contrived?  And why does he seem to get screwed over so much?

Before I start, let me say that this applies to the “Good Girl” too.

 

What is a “Good Guy”?

A good guy is somebody who thinks that if they do good things and treat people well that other people should treat them the same.  Kinda like they have been banking up good guy points to be used whenever they want.  It goes farther than that however.  For instance, a good guy would expect that just because he has feelings for a person, that they should return those feelings just because they have enough points.  The good guy feels entitled to having those feelings returned and is usually upset if they aren’t.  I understand it because I used to think like a good guy until I had a rude awakening.  I felt betrayed, cheated, and robbed of what I thought was mine.  I was very bitter about it until I realized and accepted that I wasn’t owed anything.  When I was born there was no promises made or contracts signed.  I decided to respect the other person’s right to make their own decisions about what they wanted even if it wasn’t what I felt I deserved.  I also asked myself why I was being a “good guy”.  Was it for the points or points or whatever I would gain because of my actions?  No.  Then why?  Because I wanted to.  So at that point I made the decision to be good for no other reason than it was what I wanted to be.  No more judging if it was worth it or if the person deserved me to act a certain way toward them.  I was just gonna be me and I found out that when you have no expectations from your good deeds, things usually work out the way you would want them to.  But when they don’t, you really don’t care.  Good deeds go rewarded.  Maybe not in the way its always expected to or when but it does get rewarded.  I believe in good and bad energy, you get what you put out there and so does everybody else.